If we observe one thing that people have in common, it definitely is complaining. It is one of the biggest and common examples of our social problems. People usually complain when a negative situation happens, or about the things that are out of their control. It would not be wrong to say that 80% of human talk is based on complaints. Complaining is a process that makes every other human being suffer in some way.
Why do people complain so often?
If complaining is a terrible process then why is this so common in our society. What might be the factors that cause people to complain more often? Regardless of whether complaining is a beneficial or dreadful practice, there are various reasons for it. Let’s discuss a few examples and reasons why do people complain so often.
Most people complain constantly whether they know it or not. For them, the grievance is a natural process; they are doing it unintentionally in their conversation all the time. Rather, let’s say that most of their talk is just grievance. The funny thing about them is such people do not know how often they complain because it has become their habit or might be a norm. If you have ever been in the company of such people, you will notice that the way they complain is extremely normal. Complaining can also be a favorite topic of discussion of many of us because everyone can speak freely on it. In fact, it’s an easy task to extend a grievance and every human being can easily contribute to it.
The most striking example is seen by those who accuse others of their own mistakes and shortcomings. There are countless examples of people who blame others for their failure and then relinquish their responsibilities. Such people are afraid that others may not realize their weaknesses. That is why they blame the circumstances of their missteps and divert people’s attention from their failure. Complainers never seem to be satisfied with their lives. When people fail to achieve their goals, they start complaining and hold other people or situations responsible for their frustration.
Nowadays, it is commonly seen that when we fail to do any of our tasks or unable to meet the goal, instead of considering our own drawbacks we blame other people for this. Accusing others of our own flaws has been no big deal for us. Research has shown that complaining can reduce people’s anxiety. Many people take the grievance process very positive and they do not feel comfortable until they complain and release their stress. Complaining can be habit-forming in some people. You see people complaining about anything and everything. It is an unproductive thing. Most people feel that it’s a good conversation starter because it can be easier to find common grounds by complaining. People complain when things are not as they thought to be. The problem is that mere complaining does not make things better, but they don’t realize this fact Have you ever wondered how much time we spend all day complaining? Complaints can be of different types and affect each person differently. Everyone has their own story, every person has his or her own point of view and we cannot change one’s mind. We cannot change people’s thinking nor can we change their way of thinking. When we complain about life, family, friends, spouse or job, we only bring negative energy into our lives. Complaining does not relieve our suffering at ll.
The process of complaining gives people comfort and relief in some way. They find empathy and comfort from others, which gives them peace of mind in return. The point to ponder is that complaining may take away our anxiety and frustration, but it does not solve our problems. Our confusions remain the same. The energy we waste in complaining, if invested in any positive task, life would have been much better and happier. We should try to get rid of the habit of complaining. Rather, the best possible way to get rid of this chronic habit is to learn to be grateful in every situation.